The bottom line is, kids feel healthiest when their parents get along and divorce does not make things easier. There are several things you can do as parents to help manage parenting through your divorce.
Breaking the News
Depending on age, discuss the process openly in your family. If possible, include both parents in the discussion. Emphasize that while the family is changing, it is not ending. Divorce means that a marriage is over, it does not mean that a parent’s relationship to his or her child is over. Your children should feel secure that both their parents love them and neither parent will leave their lives. Make sure they understand that the divorce is not their fault, that there is nothing that they can or should do to change things. Remember to answer their questions with as much care and honesty as possible. They will probably have quite a few questions, and answering them, repeatedly if necessary, will help them regain the sense of security that they’ve lost. [Read more...]